The Violence of Self-Improvement

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By April Hadley, LLMSW

I recently came across a brilliant quote by the rocker, David Lee Roth. He said, “The problem with self-improvement is knowing when to quit.” It connects to another favorite phrase of mine which is “the violence of self-improvement.” It is a poignant phrase because it combines two things we rarely associate with one another – violence and ...

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A Beautiful Challenge for 2017

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By April Hadley, LLMSW

I am going to give you a beautiful challenge for 2017! Are you ready? I challenge you to cultivate affection for your meditation practice! Did your face scrunch up a little as you wondered how affection and meditation could possibly go together? After all, isn’t affection better left to the realm of romance? Not anymore!

Affection can be defined ...

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Why I Need Self-Compassion

By Carol Hendershot
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“Love, not judgment, sows the seeds of tranquility and change…” Dana Faulds

I love my family, I really do, but when we all get together during the holidays, it feels like we just climbed out of a time machine. I could swear that my grown sons start to look and act the same way they did twenty years ago ...

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“What if we were already there?”

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What would life look like if you were actually present for the experience.
by Carol Hendershot

One of my students shared this lovely story with me about her vacation in Japan.

“My friend and I were rushing all over Tokyo in search of the perfect restaurant, perfect store, perfect whatever….. and my friend stopped me in my tracks. “Kathleen, how about if we just say we are already there.”

That was a ...

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Meeting Difficult Emotions with Compassion

by Carol Hendershot

Life is just hard sometimes. We get sad, angry, frustrated, lonely, and afraid.

If you’re like me you will do everything and anything you can to avoid the pain. Have a glass of wine, get lost in Facebook, go shopping, or eat ten doughnuts. If only all those tactics worked, but they don’t. The feelings don’t go away they just get buried for a while, take their vitamins, and get ready to erupt in a Mount Vesuvius kind of ...

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3 Essential Elements of Self-Compassion

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By April Hadley, LLMSW

“Sweetheart. You are struggling. Relax. Take a breath and then we will figure out what to do.”

I love these words from long-time meditation teacher, Sylvia Boorstein, for two reasons: 1) They challenge me; and 2) they contain the three essential elements of self-compassion.

Let’s start with the first reason. I am challenged to the core by the word sweetheart! Who in the world refers to themself as ...

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Looking for the Good

by Patti Ward, M.Ed.looking in a bag

“Your brain is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones”
-Rick Hanson

Last night was our 7th class for Mindfulness & Tai Chi for Middle School. We delved into the idea of ‘soaking in the good’. We talked about how our minds are highly conditioned to recognize patterns, particularly patterns that suggest something around ...

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My Life with Sheila, My Inner Critic

By Carol Hendershot
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“If you don’t change direction, you’ll end up going in the same direction.” Yogi Berra

I love this quote by Yogi Berra, because it reminds me that I actually have to do things differently to get a different result. As the old adage goes, “If you do what you did, you get what you got.”

That’s the story of my relationship with ‘Sheila’ my inner critic. ...

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